Sunday, November 11, 2012

So, in case you haven't heard yet...

We're having another baby!
We are so thankful and Reagan is excited for her sister(so she says) to come.  We won't know if it's a boy or girl until the end of January, but Reagan's vote is girl. :)

I know many people have been waiting for/wondering when this would happen.  I decided to share with you our journey for a second child.  Let me say, it has not been easy.  With Reagan we got pregnant quickly and everything went very well.  I've shared this with some, but not this openly or publicly.  We planned to have already had a second child by now.  We found out we were pregnant again this past February.  Less than a week later I miscarried.  Technically it was an ectopic pregnancy that resolved itself.  It took eight weeks for my pregnancy hormones to drop back to normal levels and then several more months for everything to get back on track.  There were lots of issues we dealt with that I won't go into detail about on here.  But some of you know them and I want to say thank you for your prayers and support.  They meant the world to me and helped me so much.  I have to stop writing about this now before I lose it.  Deep breath. 

I wanted to address a couple of things people just don't think about.  Be careful about the questions you ask people about having more children.  Better yet, just don't ask.  We didn't tell a lot of people because I needed to get through it before I could handle all the people coming up and talking about their miscarriages and how it would all be ok and feeling sorry for me.  I needed to deal with it first.  Well meaning people, not knowing what we were going through, would ask, "When are you going to have another baby?!"  "Isn't it about time Reagan had a little brother?"  Ouch.  I don't know when we'll be able to, yes it is.  Of course I didn't say those things, I just smiled and nodded.  I don't write this to make anyone feel bad, I just want people to be aware of how these questions can hurt.  Some people, friends of mine included, have been trying for years with no success.  Imagine how it would make them feel. The statistics today are something like 1 in 4 couples have problems with fertility.  That's a lot of people.  I'm very thankful that this is the only trouble we've had.

Thankfully, conception isn't an issue and the first month it was possible we found out we were pregnant again! Yay!

I am 9 weeks pregnant right now.  I have all day sickness most days.  Blech.  Haven't gained any weight yet because I can't eat much.  I also have bad sinus drainage.  Brushing my teeth normally ends in heaving.  Blech, again.  Definitely getting bigger faster this time around.  Already in maternety jeans.  Tired, sore, all the normal symptoms.  I just feel a lot worse than I did with Reagan.  The good part is, my Certified Nurse Midwife (instead of an OB) says everything looks great and in her words, "We know it's in the uterus this time!" lol

So far, so good!  Keep us in your prayers that everything will continue to go well and hopefully I'll start to feel better soon!